Looking for a new home

 

My boyfriend and I want to buy our own home in his hometown. We are currently living in a very small village in his parent’s villa, but our son is getting bigger and so are his needs. Even living close to the town the everyday driving is annoying. Our search started last year. The real estate market here is small and there are not many good options. Surprisingly, the prices are very high even for properties that need a full renovation. There was one particular apartment that we liked, but we did not want to rush and buy it. Then some other things have happened in our lives and we were not able to afford to take a loan and purchase it. Time has passed and we started looking for a new home again. We were struggling to decide if we want an already built house, apartment or a plot of land. Finally, that apartment came into our way again for a reasonable price; still we need to take a loan to afford it. We were excited and decided to share the news with our families. What came after that was a cold shower, which both, my partner and I did not expect or understand.

My in-laws started to explain us how young we are. How we do not need this. That we are incapable to pay for it and to take care of it. That it is not the right time. They had this endless list of why this is not a good idea and how we do not do well in life. My boyfriend and I did not know how to react. I felt so disappointed and vulnerable. At the same time very confused. On the other hand, my mother had an awful reaction, apparently, she expected me to go back and to live in my hometown. I do understand her; she wants to be close to my son and me. My father was calm and just gave me the advice to think about it fully before making the next step.

This situation was a good reminder to be braver and to take action for my life. For almost two weeks, I felt miserable and cried because of their opinion of us. I just could not believe how this is possible since we do so many things, working, taking care of a house and apartment, helping everybody from our family when they need something.

At the end, we decided to do what we want to and how we feel about it. So soon maybe we will be owners of a new home, next to the biggest park in the town, close to the center. My son will have a big room to play in. I will finally have a room especially for my workouts. Everything falls into place. Please, keep your fingers crossed for us!